It may sound a little silly but you need to tuck in your partner if they are the first one to go to bed. I know in my relationship my partner enjoys going to bed much earlier than I do. I enjoy staying up til the wee hours of the morning. My partner has tried this with me but it is just not to their liking. I have tried going to bed at the same time as my partner and it disrupts my whole day and night. In an effort to compromise each night that I am home, when my partner heads off to bed. I follow in like I am going to sleep with them I get in bed and spend at least 15 minutes with them as they fall asleep. This might seem a little strange but it gives us the bond at night time I hate to call it tucking them in but that is what is seems like. It is just that little security that comes from falling asleep with your partner. Once I feel like my partner is comfortable I quietly slip out of the room and continue my night. Spending those 15 minutes together in the peace of the night has made a wonderful routine for our relationship. Try it if you don't have matching sleeping styles it just might be what your relationship needs.
Friday, November 14, 2014
Wednesday, November 12, 2014
Trying to tell each other what feels good during sex seems to be a trouble for a lot of couples. Something about giving orders or criticism during the event seems wrong to some people. Yet we all want to feel good and have our needs met. My solution to this problem is to set up some signals so that you can communicate to your lover while not having to verbalize your feelings. The next time the two of you have a conversation about sex set us these signals to tell each other how you are doing. Tell them if you tug on their hair that means you like what they are doing or that if you tap their shoulder you would like them to do something else. These signals are totally up to you and you can have as many as you want. Have one for when you are ready to try a new position or when you want some oral stimulation. This way you don't have to say, "Oh that doesn't feel good" or "Oh MY GOD don't stop that" unless you are comfortable saying those things.