Trying to tell each other what feels good during sex seems to be a trouble for a lot of couples. Something about giving orders or criticism during the event seems wrong to some people. Yet we all want to feel good and have our needs met. My solution to this problem is to set up some signals so that you can communicate to your lover while not having to verbalize your feelings. The next time the two of you have a conversation about sex set us these signals to tell each other how you are doing. Tell them if you tug on their hair that means you like what they are doing or that if you tap their shoulder you would like them to do something else. These signals are totally up to you and you can have as many as you want. Have one for when you are ready to try a new position or when you want some oral stimulation. This way you don't have to say, "Oh that doesn't feel good" or "Oh MY GOD don't stop that" unless you are comfortable saying those things.