Saturday, November 16, 2013

What Do You Do To Feel Confident?

Here is one take on how to be more confident as a woman.  There is some truth behind these tips, but no two people are the same.  For that matter - not every woman wants or "needs" to put make-up on to feel confident or sexy.  Read this article and see what you think.

How to Become a More Confident and Attractive Woman - 3 Things You Can Do

Every woman wants to be attractive, regardless of age. If you are a woman, you probably agree with me.
I am not too sure if you have heard of this phrase, 'there are no ugly women, only lazy women'. So what is the meaning of this phrase? Well, it simply means every woman can be attractive, as long as she is willing to put in the effort to doll up herself.
Of course, being attractive is not all about how you look on the outside. It is also about your internal attributes, especially how confident you are about yourself. Let's put it this way. Even a plain Jane can be very attractive if she exudes an aura of confidence.
Don't believe me? Well, you can always go out there to conduct your own experiment if you wish. Just grab any ten men on the street and ask them this question, "Do you find confident women attractive?" I am sure at least 9 out of those 10 men will say they do. The one who says 'no' is probably lying or just suffering from low self esteem.
So if you want men to fall head over heels for you, start working on your confidence today. Not sure how to get started? Well, let's go through these few tips together.
1. Put on Makeup
I know I have said that being attractive is not all about your outer appearance. But let's face it. In general, people do judge a book by its cover.
So at the very least, do try to put on some makeup to make yourself more presentable, especially in professional situation. You will also feel more confident, knowing that you now look more attractive because of the makeup.
2. Dress Up
Perhaps you have heard of this saying, a woman most precious possession is her wardrobe. Well, there is certainly an element of truth in this statement.
If you want to look more attractive, you simply cannot allow yourself to dress too shabbily. From time to time, you may want to shop for new clothing.
Nowadays, buying a dress is getting more and more convenient. You can even shop online nowadays!
3. Sign Up for a Public Speaking Class
Believe it or not, public speaking is considered the number one fear by many people. Unfortunately, public speaking is something you cannot avoid if you want to progress in your career.
Since you can't avoid it, why not embrace it. Sign up for a public speaking class. You can even consider joining a Toastmaster Club. Before you know it, your public speaking skill will improve and you will find your confidence soar.
And you know what? Men will always find an eloquent woman attractive. So what are you still waiting for? Start brushing up your public speaking skills today.
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Friday, November 15, 2013

Confidence is Sexy

**Can't say that we are Paris Hilton fans, but this quote is something we can be a fan of!
Size, shape, hair color, eye color, blah, blah, blah…sure it matters to some extent to some people, 
but to be sexy - you simply need to be confident and then you can be VERY sexy!

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Wednesday, November 13, 2013

Why Not Kiss Your Lover?

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Tuesday, November 12, 2013

Letting Go of Resentment

Dr. Janelle Alex, Ph.D. & Dr. Rob Alex, Ph.D. sat down and talked with Robyn Vogel about resentments and "withholds" and how to let those things go so that you can feel a deeper connection to your partner and feel more love. Robyn defines resentment and then shares a method to move past it. Find Robyn at

Monday, November 11, 2013

Thankful for Your Family…or Not - Eek, Not Aunt Ethel Again

A Thanksgiving to Be Grateful For


You love your extended family, you really do, and the thought of all those aunts and uncles, in-laws and parents, cousins and various spouses and children warms your heart.
Until it's time for them to descend on your home for Thanksgiving.
Even if it's just a parent or solitary in-law or wayward cousin, having to deal with relatives you see but once or twice a year can be a trial. It seems so much easier to love them at a distance!
At a distance, you forget all about Aunt Ethel's obnoxious eating habits, or your mother/mother-in-law's critical comments about you, your hairdo, your children, your home, your job, your pets, your cooking, your--well, everything.
You welcome them with love and smiles into your home for the Thanksgiving feast you've prepared to the very best of your culinary ability, with care for each of their individual preferences, trying not to let your frantic last-minute running around show.
Here they are, and here's the feast, and all is well.
But it doesn't take long for Aunt Ethel's chomping to get at you, or those critical comments to make you grit your teeth (biting back the sharp retort you long to give), nor for you to think unkind thoughts of your cousin's new wife (a plunging neckline and leather micro-skirt? At the family Thanksgiving get-together?).
Somehow, all the thanks in Thanksgiving--the spirit of gratitude, appreciation and tolerance for one another--disappears even before the pumpkin pie is served.
Time for a shift! A shift in focus, that is. You see, anything you focus on grows. The more you allow yourself to notice your relatives' irritating behaviors, the more unhappy you will become. The more unhappy you are, the less you are able to tune in to the spirit of Thanksgiving. Instead of a celebration of gratitude, you end up with a headache and a pissy attitude.
Shift. Think about how much Aunt Ethel loves her food. The food you so lovingly prepared. So she has horrible table manners, so? She's having a good time, all due to you.
Your mother/mother-in-law's critical take on the world is her problem. You like yourself as you are, along with your hairdo, your children, your home, your job, your pets, your--you get the drift. Criticism is often a misguided attempt to improve things for others so they can be happier. This is just your mother/mother-in-law's way of loving you. Weird, I know, but again--not your problem. Let the critical comments flow off you like water off a duck. Irrelevant, no different than bad late-night talk show bla-bla. Just filler. Unimportant.
So the new wife is showing off her stuff? Who cares? It makes her happy, and certainly doesn't mean you have to imitate her style.
Focus on what does matter: the guests who are enjoying themselves, how nicely your casserole turned out, that the table looks lovely. Focus on how grateful you are to have a family--of one, or two, or many. Focus on how good it is to be alive, and to have the goodness that exists in your life.
Focus on giving thanks, let the rest just roll on by, and you will have a Thanksgiving to be grateful for.
Noelle C. Nelson, Ph.D., is a psychologist, relationship expert, popular speaker in the U.S. and abroad, and author of 10 best-selling books. Dr. Nelson focuses on how we can all enjoy happy, fulfilling lives while accomplishing great things in love, at home and at work, as we appreciate ourselves, our world and all others. Visit http://www.noellenelson.com
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