Friday, November 8, 2013

Differing Libidos? What Can You Do?

Dr. Janelle Alex, Ph.D. and Rob Alex, M.Sc. of Sexy Challenges talked to Aaron Anderson about differing libidos in marriages today. Is you sex drive lower/higher than you sweeties? Then you should watch now! 

Aaron Anderson is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and owner of The Marriage and Family Clinic in Westminster, CO. He is the Marriage editor for The Good Men Project and also writes for several publications on the topic of marriages, families and men. In his spare time (whatever that is) he is secretly preparing to be the next renowned chef. You can find him on Twitter @MarriageDr on Facebook and on his blog The Relationship Rx giving great relationship advice without the psychobabble.

Thursday, November 7, 2013

Tuesday, November 5, 2013

Whoa - Something Wild Just Happened While Making Love!

We often talk about transcendental sexual experiences.  But, what are they?  Dr. Jenny Wade has a wonderful book that helps share about a variety of different transcendent sexual experiences.  She researched a variety of different people - some in heterosexual relationships while others in same sex relationships, some were in committed relationships while others were not.  

Truly this book is a great read.  Will this book help you uncover your own transcendent sex?  That is not really likely, but then again it may help you understand that you have already experienced it.  Of course, we help couples learn methods to create the opportunities to experience transcendent sex, but if you don't know what it is in the first place…well….  

Monday, November 4, 2013

She Went Vegan - Oh, Man!

A few years ago, I was in grad school.  It was a transpersonal (or spiritually based) perspective on psychology.  Therefore, the students had a wide variety of backgrounds from across the globe.  In this brief article I am only going to mention the eating habits vs. all of the other differences, but that was a big one in of itself.  

For most of my life, I have said I could do without meat - I could be a vegetarian.  But, growing up in the midwest in a small town I wasn't around people who had a plant based diet.  We were taught that we had to eat meat to get our protein.  Well, after growing deep and meaningful relationships with new people who were serious vegetarians, vegans, and raw vegans I easily made the decision to go vegetarian.  That means I no longer ate meat - no red meat, no chicken, no turkey, no fish.  It was pretty easy for me, but since my sons and husband were still carnivorous it made preparing meals a bit more challenging.  I made it for about a year, then I gave in and reverted back.  

About a month ago I finally got around to watching Forks Over Knives.  Well, that was that.  I immediately decided to go back to being vegetarian.  Then I did a little more research and come to understand the unhealthy properties of dairy including the addictive properties in cheese.  Within a couple of days, my son (a senior in high school), my youngest son and I all decided to go vegan.  Time to watch Vegucated :) 

Now, hubby hasn't gone vegan.  He doesn't mind eating vegan meals with us, but also wants meat a couple of times a week.  And, I will admit that at this point we are not vigilant with our veganism.  Though we are adamantly vegetarian, we still give in and allow a bit of eggs or milk or cheese into our diets.  But, for the most part my sons and I are vegan.  

What does this have to do with relationships?  Well, we need to support our partners even when their choices are very different from our own.  Just because I am convinced that animal protein is exceptionally bad for our health I am not going to condemn my husband (or my friends for that matter) because he chooses to still eat it.  And, he supports me and the boys even when that means the food choices in the house are A LOT different than he has been used to.  

Doesn't matter if your differences are about your diet or about your taste in music or whether you like the house hot or cold - you need to find ways to compromise and honor and respect each other. 

Looking forward to yummy bean burritos tonight (nope - no cheese),
Janelle Alex, Ph.D.

Photo credit: © Liddy Hansdottir -  

Sunday, November 3, 2013

Romance Is At Hand

Many Americans have dreamed about visiting Venice and taking a ride in its most iconic mode of transportation, the gondola. But a lot of us are too busy to drop everything and go abroad; fortunately, there are gondoliers in many stateside cities who specialize in bringing a little Venetian romance and relaxation into your life. 

We were asked to share this article with you and we are pleased to do so, but we also wanted to share a couple of places that were not mentioned.  Here they are:

Old World Gondoliers in Indianapolis, IN -
Click here to discover a few of the places (from the original article) where you can take to the water the old-fashioned way.

Video Credit: @Zen Surfer - YouTube