Saturday, October 12, 2013

Connect Through Your Past - The Soulmate Experience

We want to thank Mali Apple and Joe Dunn for sharing an excerpt of their book, The Soulmate Experience with us.  
Our past experiences have the potential to greatly contribute to our relationship. Many of us, though, are uncomfortable hearing about our partner’s previous lovers and sexual encounters. We may be inclined to judge our romantic and sexual experiences against theirs or to compare ourselves to their past lovers. We may be concerned if our partner expresses appreciation or affection for a former lover. Many couples, usually through an unspoken agreement, simply avoid the topic altogether.
Some people, while intrigued by their partner’s previous intimacies and the idea of sharing their own, have either been conditioned to stay clear of the subject or don’t think their partner would be receptive. Other people would be comfortable relating their own stories, but would rather avoid the insecurities that would surface if they listen to their partner’s.
Because many of us tend to experience jealousy in these situations, we’re often advised to be cautious about which experiences we share and how much we reveal. We’re warned not to say anything that could make our partner feel inadequate or insecure. But if we set up our relationships so that we must censor ourselves and try to anticipate and avoid whatever might trigger our partner’s jealousy, we may never know the profound intimacy that’s at the heart of a truly connected relationship.
When we have the tools and the intentions in place to heal any uncomfortable feelings that surface, sharing our past romances and sexual encounters with our lover can be a path to deeper intimacy. Revealing aspects of ourselves that we normally keep hidden, and exploring them with the person we love, is true intimacy. A safe, loving space is also an ideal environment for investigating and beginning to heal painful memories or lingering wounds from sexual experiences that were embarrassing, diminishing, or traumatic. Through this process, you might also be inspired to investigate them further with the help of a coach or counselor.
If you and your partner decide to try sharing your memories and experiences, it will be a very personal process. When you’re the storyteller, you might paint a scene for your partner by describing the setting and how you were feeling. When you’re the listener, you might just offer your partner your loving presence, listening fully and letting go of any opinions, judgments, or agenda. Or you might ask questions that encourage your partner to explore the memory more deeply. Whatever approaches the two of you take, have an intention to stay completely connected. If uncomfortable feelings are triggered, turning your attention to exploring and healing them can be a truly loving experience.
As you connect through your intimate stories, your relationship circle will expand to embrace your previous experiences. Instead of feeling separate from each other’s past, you will be drawing on those pasts to contribute to your present—together.
Excerpted with permission from The Soulmate Experience: A Practical Guide to Creating Extraordinary Relationships by Mali Apple and Joe Dunn. This bestselling book won a 2012 International Book Awards gold medal and a 2012 Living Now Awards silver medal. Mali and Joe are currently deep in the creation process of the second book in “The Soulmate Experience” series, The Soulmate Lover.

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Friday, October 11, 2013

Being a Leader In Your Relationship Can Be Sexy!

We had a blast talking with Blair Glaser a few days ago.  Watch now!

Dr. Janelle Alex, Ph.D. & Rob Alex, M.Sc. talked with Blair Glaser, psychotherapist, writer and consultant, today about leadership roles in relationships. They dug in a little bit into their personal relationship as they are business partners as well as a couple. What does being a CSO (Chief Sexual Officer) or CFO (Chief Financial Officer) in your relationship mean? Find out more about Blair and her programs at

Thursday, October 10, 2013

Grumpy Granny Thinks Love Stinks

Well, geesh, Granny!
Did life make you angry or break you heart?, earlier this week we shared a couple of lines from Kelly Clarkson's Tie It Up.  Why not share an opposite view... Love Stinks by J. Geils Band?  Granny sure seems to think love stinks.

You love her 
But she loves him

And he loves somebody else
You just can't win 

And so it goes
Till the day you die

This thing they call love 
It's gonna make you cry 

I've had the blues 
The reds and the pinks 

One thing for sure 

Love Stinks!
-J.Geils Band
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Wednesday, October 9, 2013

Explore a Fantasy With Your Sweetheart (Maybe a Themed Hotel)

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Tuesday, October 8, 2013

Hey Guys! A Different Way to Stay Interested in Sex After 40

Your Sexual Health Depends on The Condition of Your Body

It is a fact of life that as men get older, they notice physical changes, which can impact performance in the bedroom. They think about sex less often and find their erections not robust as before. In such cases, men are likely to become depressed and believe that the process of aging has caught up with them. Fortunately, they do not have to think so because there are solutions that can improve their sexual health. Let us take a look at some of the common concerns and the best way to restore sexual health.
One of the main reasons why men face issues like these is because after the age of 40, they begin to witness a decline in their testosterone levels. In such conditions, it is normal to see a diminishing interest in sex or loss of libido as well. This is not just a sign of aging but is a problem that is far more serious. There are a number of factors that can lower testosterone levels within the body. Some of them are kidney failure, hormonal disorders, genetic conditions that are natural and type II diabetes. Medications that are taken for conditions of the heart can also bring about changes that will affect an individual.
Another problem, which is commonly encountered, is that of erectile dysfunction. Blood flow into the sexual organs diminishes with age, and people will have to work harder before they find themselves in a position to have sex. This problem is easy to avoid if people care about their bodies in a proper manner. They just have to eat well, stay away from vices and give their body some exercise regularly. Medications are certainly available to deal with this condition, but it would be better for men to follow a natural way to overcome this issue.
A number of treatments have now been devised to deal with the sexual health of men. While there are certainly effective they have the ability to leave behind side effects, which can prove harmful when used for an extended period. Under the circumstances men will do well to look for alternatives that can help them better. Deer Antler Velvet supplements, are today considered as a safe remedy for conditions like these. They require no prescription from a physician and can be purchased locally. Men only have to take two capsules of this supplement every day to rediscover themselves and begin feeling younger all over again. Supplements of deer antler velvet are better than any medications that are provided by the medical fraternity. They just have to be taken regularly to get back the vigor that men feel they have lost.
John S. Farmer is a food technologist and has been involved in the development of quality food and high grade supplements for more than 10 years. Click here to learn more about John's latest discovery and the benefits of Deer Antler Velvet.
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Monday, October 7, 2013

You're The Yin to My Yang

"I love the ring of your name
You're the yin to my yang
Oh baby let's give it a shot
Every wall needs a frame
Every ball needs a chain
I'm talkin' about tying the knot
Tie it up"

 Kelly Clarkson

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Sunday, October 6, 2013

Create a Vampire Weekend

What a perfect time of year to create a Vampire Weekend for you and your lover.  With autumn upon us and Halloween around the corner it is quite easy to find the items you will need to create this sexy, hot, and wild weekend.

But, how?  What do you need?  What are you supposed to do?

Well, pick up the Sexy Challenge: Vampire Weekend for your Kindle, Nook, or via iTunes and find out.