Friday, July 26, 2013

Does Your Partner Feel Special?

What have you done today to make your partner feel special?

Each day you should wake up and find a way to make your partner feel special.  It could be as simple as leaving a note saying, "I Love You"  You don't have to break the bank to make them feel special.  Just think about what your partner like and make sure they get to experience it.  You might just be amazed at home much it will start to make your relationship better.  

Thursday, July 25, 2013


Okay for those couples that love to hold hands this is an amazing product I stumbled across.  If you enjoy holding hand with each other, the cold weather usually presents a problem for this simple love message.  However with Smittens you can still hold actual hands in the cold weather.  The oversized double mitten allows lovers to keep their hands warm while joining their hands together.  Also included are two other mittens that match for those hands that are not getting held.  This might seem a little over the top for some but it can be a great way to show the world you are in love, even in cold weather.

Wednesday, July 24, 2013

Crazy Meditators

We love to meditate however some people get way to into it.  Here is a funny little video of crazy things that Meditators say.  Hope you enjoy the humor and the fun.  

Tuesday, July 23, 2013

5 Reasons Sex Can Be Super Exciting After Midlife

Sex After Mid-Life
5 Reasons It Can Be Super Exciting and Hot!

American culture teaches us to believe that we are only sexy in our 20s, 30s and maybe – if you are lucky, 40s.  We are taught that having an active and exciting sex life is something that we will no longer have once we hit middle age and beyond.  Well, screw that (pun intended)! 

I am going to share with you 5 reasons why sex after middle age can be even hotter, sexier, spicier, and more exciting than when you were younger.  Yes, sometimes there are medical conditions that can affect your sex life, but you can seek help for those.  You can find natural methods to assist with physical conditions as well as finding assistance within in western medicine.  It can be freaking amazing and here’s why. 

1.    Experience!  - Okay, you have gone through your teens and 20s trying to figure out what the heck all the fuss was about.  Hopefully, you enjoyed a lot of wonderful lovemaking during those years and had a loving committed partner for part (if not most) of that time.  Then, you moved into your 30s and 40s and hopefully, still had wonderful sex around having kids and a career.  Well, guess what?  All these years gave you a lot of experience.  You had the opportunity to figure out what you do and don’t like when it comes to gettin’ busy.  Boy, oh boy, that can come in handy now!
2.    No Kiddos! – Most likely, if you had children, they are grown or at least not little anymore.  So, now you don’t have to worry about little ones bursting into your bedroom and there is a very good chance that you can get back to making love in any room in the house.  Plus, you aren’t as apt to be stressed and worn out due to running them to this practice and that event and trying to help get their homework done.  Yay!  Stress level has dropped!
3.    More Time!  - By now you are hopefully more established in your career and don’t need to spend so many hours working.  As mentioned above, you aren’t as likely to be running kids everywhere.  There is time for the two of you again.  Time to date (whether or not you are already in a relationship or looking for a new one).  The more time you spend together the more likely you are to bond on a deeper level and then….yep – rip each other’s clothes off and spend some naked time together!
4.    Extra Money! – In those earlier years, your finances may have been a bit tighter.  Now you are, hopefully, better off financially and have more disposable income to spend on dates, romantic excursions, clothes/shoes that make you feel sexy, and even more adult toys/lubes.  *Ah, reflect back to “experience”: you know what you like or you are more willing to find out now – so, spend some money on high quality sex toys and enjoy hotter, new, different, intimate play with your lover.
5.    Sexy & Healthy! – The more pleasurable sex (particularly in a committed relationship) you enjoy the more oxytocin that is released into the body.  This is the “feel good” hormone.  It eases pain and just makes you happier in general.  And, even more exciting is the fact that as oxytocin is released in the body more oxytocin receptors are created!  Woo Hoo!  That means the more sex you have the better and better you can feel.  Of course, on top of all that is the fact that making love is a spiritual connection even if you never intend for it to be.  Therefore, not only does your physical body become healthier and happier, but so does your soul.  How can you beat that?

So, for those who have told you that having a great sex life past middle age is practically hopeless, you now have five reasons why they are wrong.  Experience!  No kiddos!  More time!  Extra money!  Sexy & healthy – physically and spiritually!  We typically live so much longer nowadays.  Take the time to enjoy this second half of your life and fill it with playful experiences – physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.  Honor your life and your sweetie’s by engaging in more powerful, playful passion.

Janelle Alex, Ph.D. © 2013  
Co-Founder of Sexy Challenges

Get busy. Get spiritual. Laugh your ass off!

Monday, July 22, 2013

Touch Me Here, Touch Me There! (Ways We Communicate w/Lover 7 of 8)

Touch Him!  Touch Her! 

Part 7 of 8

Touch - Touching our partner is certainly a way to communicate.  Let me give you an example – let’s say your partner becomes upset with someone and a conversation begins to become heated between them.  You could gently lay your hand on your partner’s arm or back.  He/she will know you are there to support and perhaps calm him/her.  Another time we can use touch is when we pass each other in the hall or in the kitchen.  We can simply offer a light touch of the hand or a quick hug as we pass by.  Those light touches let our partners know that way love them and want to touch them.

Janelle Alex, Ph.D.  Copyright 2011
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