Tuesday, December 31, 2013

Happy New Year To Everyone

2014 promises to be the best year yet.  Excitement awaits you but until then enjoy these fireworks.

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Saturday, December 28, 2013

7 New Year's Resolutions for Couples

7 New Year's Resolutions for Couples (YES, for Couples - Try It!)

Do couples ever make resolutions for their relationship?
Here at the time of New Year's Resolutions, and at any time, it sure seems like a good ides for couples to make resolutions for their relationship.
To that end, here are 7 suggestions for Couple Resolutions:
1) Remember first attractions - It's so easy in the general messiness of living with another person to forget about what attracted you to each other in the first place. This would be a good list to make and a good conversation to have every know and then.
It's been said by my favorite author (Author Unknown) that "When you are up to your neck in alligators, it's hard to remember the original objective was to drain the swamp."This applies here big time.
2) Fight for relationship - Couples fight sometimes. That's just part of the territory. So since you are going to fight, why not decide in advance what to for, yes? I suggest fighting for the relationship. Most folks fight to be right. Fight for the relationship.
3) Live below your means - Now I've gone from preaching to meddling, right? The happiest couples I know are not necessarily the richest couples I know. The happiest couples I know are those without significant money worries. The best way to achieve this is to live below your means.
4) Know love language - In what way does your partner best experience and feel loved? Is it actions like acts of service? Is it words? Is it being touched?
The best way to find out is to ask.
5) Speak love language - Once you know the love language of your partner, speak it. Radical notion I know, but it works. The temptation is to speak in our own love language. Often that is not the language of our partner. Know it and speak it.
6) Daily time together - I don't care if it's just 15 minutes. Couple need this time to keep the connection strong. In the hustle and bustle of each day, couple time is often the first thing to go. Schedule it if you have to, just make sure you get it in.
7) Regular date night - This could be the best couple resolution of all. You dated when you were getting together. Why stop? A regular date night allows you to spend quality couple time together, and gives you something to look forward to each week or month.
Bonus Tip - Think a regular date night could get expensive? You're right. Think a regular date night has to be expensive? You're wrong.
Check out Oprah expert Michael Webb's 300 Creative Dates for great inexpensive and creative date ideas. Just visithttp://GreatDatesDoneCheap.com to plan your next fun and inexpensive date.
Brought to you by Syndicated Relationship Columnist Jeffrey Herring- keeping it simple in relationships.
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Thursday, December 26, 2013

Are You Ready For New Years Eve?

Okay it is time to get ready for New Years.  Christmas Is now over and today is the day to start planing on improving your relationship.  

Pick up Sexy Challenges New Years Resolution on iTunes, or for your Kindle or Nook.  

Friday, December 20, 2013

Wednesday, December 18, 2013

Get Behind Your Team

This is a great time of year to get ready to cheer for your team in the upcoming playoffs.  Together is a great way to spend your Sundays.  Make it a special occasion for you and your lovers to share in this support of your team.  Now if you are both cheering for different teams then that changes the entire picture.  

Go Broncos!!!

Wednesday, December 4, 2013

Romance May Not Be What You Think

Romance really might not be what you think it is.  It can be very different from person to person and we are willing to bet that most people don't look at it the same way it is defined in the Webster's dictionary.
Here are some key points of today's episode:
  1. The definition of "romance" may surprise you.
  2. Romance is for BOTH of you.
  3. Forget the chocolates, jewelry, and flowers…
Happy Romantic Holidays,
Janelle and Rob - Your Sexy Challenge Team

Dr. Janelle Alex, Ph.D. - Couples' Dream Therapist
Dr. Rob Alex, Ph.D. - The Guru of Getting It On

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Monday, December 2, 2013

How Can You Save Money During the Holidays?

Buy, buy, buy!  Is that really what the holidays should be about?  Your credit card company might like that, but is it really what you want to do?
Here are the key points from today's episode:
  1. Don't buy things you really don't want or need.  Aunt Ethel doesn't need a pair of wool underwear.
  2. Indulge in Creativity
  3. Give to others who can't give to you…
Happy Holidays,
Janelle and Rob - Your Sexy Challenge Team

Dr. Janelle Alex, Ph.D. - Couples' Dream Therapist
Dr. Rob Alex, Ph.D. - The Guru of Getting It On

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Monday, November 25, 2013

Love Brings….Energy - Van Gogh

Love always brings difficulties, that is true, but the good side of it is that it gives energy.
- Vincent Van Gogh

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Saturday, November 23, 2013

3 Things To Live - Love, Hold, Let Go

To live in this world, you must be able to do three things: to love what is mortal; to hold it against your bones knowing your own life depends on it; and, when the time comes to let it go, to let it go.
- Mary Oliver

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Friday, November 22, 2013

Sexy Gift for Him!

Recently, someone asked me, "What can I buy [Tom] for Christmas?  He has everything!"

My response, "Ummm, does he have a copy of Sexy Challenges - the compilation of the first 50?"

She replied, "No, but that sounds like an awesome idea.  I can give him a present that keeps giving all year!  Freaking awesome!  Why didn't I think of that?"

Challenges include: Become the Warrior; Cell Phone Erotica; Shower Magick; Oooh Christmas Tree; New Year's Resolution; Having a Ball With Sex and 44 more!

Sex can be just sex. The mechanics of it can be planned out and the outcome you desire can be achieved as a purely physical act. It is possible that this can leave you feeling wonderful and physically connected with your partner. But, what if it could be so much more? What if the pleasure you feel now could be doubled, tripled or increased beyond belief? Would you want to experience that? Sexy Challenges can take you to a place where sensual love and sacred sex combine to form an experience that lifts you to new heights. Your experiences can move beyond just the physical. You might be surprised to learn that each orgasm you share with your beloved actually contains the vastness of the Universe. Inside this exciting book, you will discover fifty sexy challenges. These encompass a wide range of experiences. Through the fun, laughter, communication, romance and passion of these challenges the connection with your partner can become more powerful than you ever expected. You can touch the untouchable. The god or goddess within you can be revealed.

Thursday, November 21, 2013

Myths About Sex & Aging! - Grandma, You Can Still Do It - It's Cool!

Dr. Janelle Alex, Ph.D. & Dr. Rob Alex, Ph.D. talk with Joan Price about sex myths and aging. Everyone should hear this! From Joan's book, Naked At Our Age, "With self-knowledge, creativity, good communication, and a sense of humor, we can roll with the changes and make the earth move again."http://www.joanprice.com

Tuesday, November 19, 2013

Spice It Up With Sex Gifts For Her

How You Can Spice Up Your Married Life by Presenting Sexy Gifts to Your Wife? By 

If you want to spice up your married life and keep the love flame burning, then present sexy gifts to your gifts. It can be a sexy dress, a gracious act or something that will make your wife feel beautiful and comfortable in her own body. You need to be very caring while buying a sexy gift for your wife. Don't upset your wife by presenting something raunchy and vulgar because these gifts will embarrass your lady rather than pleasing them. So be creative and consider your wife's personal tastes and interests while buying gifts for her. Read this article to know what kind of sexy gifts you can present to your wife.
Buy some sexy lingerie for your wife that best suits her body-type and make her feel beautiful. You can buy a sexy baby doll nightie or a silk chemise if you want something more elegant and gracious. For a sexier gift, you can present her a pair of beauty panties, bustiers or silk robes.
You can also present her your special bath box which contains bath oils, body butters, scented candles and perfumes to create a very sexy and romantic mood when used.
Women love beautiful in heels. So present your wife a pair of sexy stilettos or knee high boots from her favorite designer. Take her to a fashion store and gift those sexy boots as you are getting ready to go out. While shopping, ensure you have a good sense of your wife's personal interests. You can also seek an advice from your female friend, sister or concerned sales person.
You can gift your wife a member to a local yoga or pilates centre. Because these kinds of exercise routines will keep her body in tone and make her look sexier.
Gift your wife a spa day treat where he can enjoy the works like a manicure, pedicure, facial and massage and take her for a romantic candle light dinner. After the treat, she will feel very refreshed and appreciate all your efforts to make her feel special and arranging such a romantic night.
If your wife loves dancing, then present her an instructional DVD or book for her favorite dance form and she will love the idea of having some sexy skills. You can also gift your wife a sexy costume and praise her efforts when she had learned a particular dance step.
You can add more spice to your married life by presenting your wife an album of sexy movies like "Out of Sight", "Mr. and Mrs. Smith", "His Girl Friday", "Body Heat" etc. Now enjoy watching these sexy movies with your wife in your bedroom. You can include a glass of wine and lit some scented candles to make the environment more romantic.
You can purchase baby doll nightie to improve your Sexier Look with our exclusive nighty collection. If you are shy in nature, then check out our nighty gown section.

Monday, November 18, 2013

Lots and Lots of Places To Make Love

When looking to spice up your love life, many couples look for adventurous or novel places to make love. There are certain locations that enable sensual love making while others demand quicker acts of passion. A bedroom is a comfortable place to make love but there are so many exciting and lusty locations to have passionate sex. Whether spontaneous and urgent or planned for fun, sex in new locations can be extremely thrilling.
Creative lovers are always on the look out for opportunities to get wild and frisky. With the right inspiration, every day sex can be transformed into an unforgettable experience. You may have seen other lovemaking location lists but let's push the envelope and go for at least 69 -- always a good number for sex ideas. Remember that for some locations, there are pleasurable sex activities other than intercourse. Oral and manual stimulation can be just as satisfying and more practical in some situations.

  1. Fooling around as passengers in a moving car (back seat while a friend drives, discreetly in a taxi, in a limousine with a privacy screen).
  2. In a parked car during a romantic or exciting event (watching fireworks, admiring a sunrise/sunset, sheltering from a thunderous rain storm).
  3. In a honeymoon suite but not during your Honeymoon. Elegant and fancy or themed for fun, recreate your honeymoon or practice what it would be like.
  4. In a seedy motel. Arrive separately and roleplay an office coworker affair or a prostitute fantasy.
  5. In a high class hotel suite with a panoramic window view -- keep the curtains open if you dare.
  6. In a room with at least one hundred candles casting a soft glowing light over your naked bodies while you enjoy sensual pleasuring.
  7. Frosty fornication in a snow fort or igloo you made together is great fun. You can even fashion a special mound to mount on.
  8. On a boat in the open air (not below deck). Consider a canoe, row boat or rubber raft if you don't have access to a yacht, sail or speed boat with a large deck.
  9. Slick with massage oil wresting on a plastic sheet or in a blowup pool.
  10. In the shower enjoying the sensual, slippery suds and a hand held water massager. Intimate bathing and bonding or hot steamy sex -- what ever suits your mood.  Check out Sexy Challenge's Shower Magick.
  11. In an English garden surrounded by fragrant blossoms. Make it more fun by dressing elegantly and indulge in a sense of aristocratic debauchery.
  12. In a gazebo under the stars, moonlight or noon day sun. Semi outdoor sex as secluded as you dare.
  13. On a king size water bed fitted with satin sheets and lots of fluffy pillows.
  14. In a cool, fast moving stream or small creek. A swirling pool under a water fall is an amazing location if you can find one.
  15. On a swing strong enough for two. Actually swinging together with penetration is tricky, however there are many other fun activities you can do involving a swing.
  16. In a hammock between two palm trees on a secluded ocean front beach.
  17. In a lookout tower or observatory. Finding one that provides a scenic view and opportune privacy will be its own adventure.
  18. Rear entry on a bridge while overlooking the depth below. Even more intense on a swaying rope bridge for added adrenaline rush.
  19. In the stairwell of an apartment or office building -- better exercise than taking the elevator. (or on the stairs in you own house)
  20. On the top of a large hill or small mountain under the stars or full moon. Take in the view with a bottle of wine then enjoy each other.
  21. On a train. Either in a rare, vacant car or a private cabin, "playing on the tracks" is a temptation to be tried.
  22. In a van, the back of a pickup truck or on the hood of a sports car.
  23. While skinny dipping at night in a pool, river, lake or ocean. Note that cool water tends to make some bits firmer while others shrink.  Pick Sexy Challenge's Let's Swim to the Moon
  24. In a bath, hot tub or spa. Soak, soothe and sensually stroking each other or stimulate wet and wild sex with invigorating water jets.
  25. On a roof. Outside on the flat top of tall building or (carefully) on a low, slightly sloped roof can be thrilling.
  26. In a field of tall grass or flowers. A secluded, lush green meadow next to a small stream is ideal.
  27. Under a cherry, apple or other fruit tree in full bloom. Enjoy the sensual sights, sounds and smells of Spring whenever you can.
  28. On a pile of pillows. An assortment of shapes, sizes, colors and textures all piled for pleasure. Have a playful pillow fight. Try new positions.
  29. In a barn. A horse stable may bring out the animal in you. The hayloft (on soft straw) can be extremely fun. Roleplay cowboy, stable hand or farmer's daughter.
  30. Deep in a forest up against a large tree. Agile couples can even try various positions in the tree if the branches are just right.
  31. Outside in the refreshing, cool rain during a hot day or night. Thunder and lightning add to the thrill.
  32. Safely under a sheet metal roof during a hail storm or torrential down pour.
  33. Anywhere under the hot sun with an ice dildo. Make one by freezing a plastic water/pop bottle filled with water and cutting the plastic off.
  34. In a sleeping bag in the open air under a clear sky bright with stars. Go as far away from city lights as possible. Aurora lights will make it even more special.
  35. On a tiny island. Revel in quiet seclusion or spice it up with roleplay. Pretend to be castaways or, for a historic setting, a scout meeting a native first time.
  36. On a beach on the hot, dry sand or right on the shore with the waves lapping up around you. Anywhere you can see and hear huge crashing waves.
  37. In the middle of a sports field or stadium (golf course, soccer, football, rugby, race track, etc.). Most likely best during off season or at night.
  38. In a cave, tunnel or under a bridge. The echoes of your ecstasy or the sounds of traffic overhead can be exciting.
  39. On a trampoline or blowup bouncer. Standing intercourse while jumping may be tricky. An exercise ball will give a similar bouncy feeling for other positions.
  40. In a small clothes or coat closet with the doors closed so it is completely dark. Will someone open it and catch you in the act? Fun at parties.
  41. On a billiard table as a forfeit for losing a few games of Dirty Pool
  42. On a fur rug/coat in front of a warm, glowing fireplace at night.
  43. In every room of your home and your lover's home if you live separately.
  44. Creatively on or using stable pieces of furniture. On the kitchen counter, dining table, sofa, foot stool, etc. On the floor and up against the wall too.  Or take it to a different level with Unstable Passion.
  45. In front of a mirror or beneath one attached to the ceiling. Get a revealing new perspective of your love making from new angles.
  46. In front of a tripod mounted video camera or webcam. Record for later, view live or stream to an internet audience if you are an exhibitionist.
  47. In a small log cabin, thatch hut, mud hut or teepee. Include the possibility when planning vacations.
  48. In a garage, boat house or storage shed. Surreptitiously meet while others are outside unaware of your naughty behavior.
  49. In a tree house or fort (either a chance discovery, your own or a neighbors). Pretend you are teenagers fooling around for the first time.
  50. Next to an open fire while camping. A roaring fire stimulates passion while softly glowing embers at night instill romance and intimacy.
  51. On or against a clothes washing machine especially during the spin cycle.
  52. At a sex club or fetish party in a private cubicle or on display for others to see.
  53. On exercise equipment at a private gym. You will definitely enjoy your workout.
  54. In a dark corner of a dance club with a pulsing, pounding beat to grind to. A skirt and no panties/underwear makes this a much easier to perform.
  55. In a parking lot between parked cars/vans. Try underground and above ground parking lots but take care for security systems and surveillance cameras.
  56. Snuggling together in a sleeping bag in a small tent. Weather conditions, wilderness sounds or scary stories can set the mood.
  57. On a designated border line between two countries, states or provinces -- one person in each territory engaging in diplomatic relations.
  58. In or near a cemetery at midnight during a full moon if you dare. Standing sex will have both your legs shaking with the thrill.  Mummify Me - another Sexy Challenge.
  59. In a public restroom, change room or even a friends bathroom. Novelty and the risk of getting caught coming out together make this exciting.
  60. On a plush lawn at night or early morning while it is still wet with dew.
  61. In a theatre during an arousing show or to make it more interesting. Remember to bring some wet wipes to clean your fingers.
  62. In a pile of fallen leaves or freshly cut grass.
  63. In a bed covered with rose petals or lots of money.
  64. On a private patio, porch or deck (poolside even better). A sturdy lawn chair or table, air mattress or a few seat cushions may come in handy.
  65. In an elevator (late at night on a weekday might be a good time and dress for a quickie).
  66. At a costume party. Dress the part for a sexy roleplaying scenario. Flirt and play act until you can secretly meet to fulfill your fantasy.
  67. Out on a high rise apartment balcony or next to a large window near the top floor. Try standing rear entry while looking down below.
  68. In a private adult playroom stocked with a wide variety of pleasuring implements. Bondage devices, costumes, toys and other playthings will whet your desire.
  69. Inside a walk in vault (it has happened but tends to require an employee or owner to facilitate). A walk in fridge or supply room is a quick alternative.
Some lovemaking locations may actually be a little tricky, costly, too exotic or even slightly dangerous depending upon your circumstances. However, if an idea intrigues you, you can always setup a scenario and roleplay a situation in a pretend location. With a little imagination and a few props, you can create a fantasy setting to fulfill your desires. You can even recreate historical, fanciful or alien space settings.
For more frisky ideas to enhance your relationship with foreplay fun and quality sex, check out the Frisky Foreplay erotic dice game.

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Sunday, November 17, 2013

First Date Again and Again and Again - In a Great Way

"I don't know who you are, Henry...but I dream about you almost every night." -- Lucy

We absolutely love this movie.  It is almost 10 years old now, but it is a great one!

Saturday, November 16, 2013

What Do You Do To Feel Confident?

Here is one take on how to be more confident as a woman.  There is some truth behind these tips, but no two people are the same.  For that matter - not every woman wants or "needs" to put make-up on to feel confident or sexy.  Read this article and see what you think.

How to Become a More Confident and Attractive Woman - 3 Things You Can Do

Every woman wants to be attractive, regardless of age. If you are a woman, you probably agree with me.
I am not too sure if you have heard of this phrase, 'there are no ugly women, only lazy women'. So what is the meaning of this phrase? Well, it simply means every woman can be attractive, as long as she is willing to put in the effort to doll up herself.
Of course, being attractive is not all about how you look on the outside. It is also about your internal attributes, especially how confident you are about yourself. Let's put it this way. Even a plain Jane can be very attractive if she exudes an aura of confidence.
Don't believe me? Well, you can always go out there to conduct your own experiment if you wish. Just grab any ten men on the street and ask them this question, "Do you find confident women attractive?" I am sure at least 9 out of those 10 men will say they do. The one who says 'no' is probably lying or just suffering from low self esteem.
So if you want men to fall head over heels for you, start working on your confidence today. Not sure how to get started? Well, let's go through these few tips together.
1. Put on Makeup
I know I have said that being attractive is not all about your outer appearance. But let's face it. In general, people do judge a book by its cover.
So at the very least, do try to put on some makeup to make yourself more presentable, especially in professional situation. You will also feel more confident, knowing that you now look more attractive because of the makeup.
2. Dress Up
Perhaps you have heard of this saying, a woman most precious possession is her wardrobe. Well, there is certainly an element of truth in this statement.
If you want to look more attractive, you simply cannot allow yourself to dress too shabbily. From time to time, you may want to shop for new clothing.
Nowadays, buying a dress is getting more and more convenient. You can even shop online nowadays!
3. Sign Up for a Public Speaking Class
Believe it or not, public speaking is considered the number one fear by many people. Unfortunately, public speaking is something you cannot avoid if you want to progress in your career.
Since you can't avoid it, why not embrace it. Sign up for a public speaking class. You can even consider joining a Toastmaster Club. Before you know it, your public speaking skill will improve and you will find your confidence soar.
And you know what? Men will always find an eloquent woman attractive. So what are you still waiting for? Start brushing up your public speaking skills today.
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Friday, November 15, 2013

Confidence is Sexy

**Can't say that we are Paris Hilton fans, but this quote is something we can be a fan of!
Size, shape, hair color, eye color, blah, blah, blah…sure it matters to some extent to some people, 
but to be sexy - you simply need to be confident and then you can be VERY sexy!

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Wednesday, November 13, 2013

Why Not Kiss Your Lover?

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Tuesday, November 12, 2013

Letting Go of Resentment

Dr. Janelle Alex, Ph.D. & Dr. Rob Alex, Ph.D. sat down and talked with Robyn Vogel about resentments and "withholds" and how to let those things go so that you can feel a deeper connection to your partner and feel more love. Robyn defines resentment and then shares a method to move past it. Find Robyn athttp://www.sacredtantricfire.com.

Monday, November 11, 2013

Thankful for Your Family…or Not - Eek, Not Aunt Ethel Again

A Thanksgiving to Be Grateful For


You love your extended family, you really do, and the thought of all those aunts and uncles, in-laws and parents, cousins and various spouses and children warms your heart.
Until it's time for them to descend on your home for Thanksgiving.
Even if it's just a parent or solitary in-law or wayward cousin, having to deal with relatives you see but once or twice a year can be a trial. It seems so much easier to love them at a distance!
At a distance, you forget all about Aunt Ethel's obnoxious eating habits, or your mother/mother-in-law's critical comments about you, your hairdo, your children, your home, your job, your pets, your cooking, your--well, everything.
You welcome them with love and smiles into your home for the Thanksgiving feast you've prepared to the very best of your culinary ability, with care for each of their individual preferences, trying not to let your frantic last-minute running around show.
Here they are, and here's the feast, and all is well.
But it doesn't take long for Aunt Ethel's chomping to get at you, or those critical comments to make you grit your teeth (biting back the sharp retort you long to give), nor for you to think unkind thoughts of your cousin's new wife (a plunging neckline and leather micro-skirt? At the family Thanksgiving get-together?).
Somehow, all the thanks in Thanksgiving--the spirit of gratitude, appreciation and tolerance for one another--disappears even before the pumpkin pie is served.
Time for a shift! A shift in focus, that is. You see, anything you focus on grows. The more you allow yourself to notice your relatives' irritating behaviors, the more unhappy you will become. The more unhappy you are, the less you are able to tune in to the spirit of Thanksgiving. Instead of a celebration of gratitude, you end up with a headache and a pissy attitude.
Shift. Think about how much Aunt Ethel loves her food. The food you so lovingly prepared. So she has horrible table manners, so? She's having a good time, all due to you.
Your mother/mother-in-law's critical take on the world is her problem. You like yourself as you are, along with your hairdo, your children, your home, your job, your pets, your--you get the drift. Criticism is often a misguided attempt to improve things for others so they can be happier. This is just your mother/mother-in-law's way of loving you. Weird, I know, but again--not your problem. Let the critical comments flow off you like water off a duck. Irrelevant, no different than bad late-night talk show bla-bla. Just filler. Unimportant.
So the new wife is showing off her stuff? Who cares? It makes her happy, and certainly doesn't mean you have to imitate her style.
Focus on what does matter: the guests who are enjoying themselves, how nicely your casserole turned out, that the table looks lovely. Focus on how grateful you are to have a family--of one, or two, or many. Focus on how good it is to be alive, and to have the goodness that exists in your life.
Focus on giving thanks, let the rest just roll on by, and you will have a Thanksgiving to be grateful for.
Noelle C. Nelson, Ph.D., is a psychologist, relationship expert, popular speaker in the U.S. and abroad, and author of 10 best-selling books. Dr. Nelson focuses on how we can all enjoy happy, fulfilling lives while accomplishing great things in love, at home and at work, as we appreciate ourselves, our world and all others. Visit http://www.noellenelson.comhttp://anotefromdrnoelle.blogspot.com.
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Friday, November 8, 2013

Differing Libidos? What Can You Do?

Dr. Janelle Alex, Ph.D. and Rob Alex, M.Sc. of Sexy Challenges talked to Aaron Anderson about differing libidos in marriages today. Is you sex drive lower/higher than you sweeties? Then you should watch now! 

Aaron Anderson is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and owner of The Marriage and Family Clinic in Westminster, CO. He is the Marriage editor for The Good Men Project and also writes for several publications on the topic of marriages, families and men. In his spare time (whatever that is) he is secretly preparing to be the next renowned chef. You can find him on Twitter @MarriageDr on Facebook and on his blog The Relationship Rx giving great relationship advice without the psychobabble.

Thursday, November 7, 2013

Tuesday, November 5, 2013

Whoa - Something Wild Just Happened While Making Love!

We often talk about transcendental sexual experiences.  But, what are they?  Dr. Jenny Wade has a wonderful book that helps share about a variety of different transcendent sexual experiences.  She researched a variety of different people - some in heterosexual relationships while others in same sex relationships, some were in committed relationships while others were not.  

Truly this book is a great read.  Will this book help you uncover your own transcendent sex?  That is not really likely, but then again it may help you understand that you have already experienced it.  Of course, we help couples learn methods to create the opportunities to experience transcendent sex, but if you don't know what it is in the first place…well….  

Monday, November 4, 2013

She Went Vegan - Oh, Man!

A few years ago, I was in grad school.  It was a transpersonal (or spiritually based) perspective on psychology.  Therefore, the students had a wide variety of backgrounds from across the globe.  In this brief article I am only going to mention the eating habits vs. all of the other differences, but that was a big one in of itself.  

For most of my life, I have said I could do without meat - I could be a vegetarian.  But, growing up in the midwest in a small town I wasn't around people who had a plant based diet.  We were taught that we had to eat meat to get our protein.  Well, after growing deep and meaningful relationships with new people who were serious vegetarians, vegans, and raw vegans I easily made the decision to go vegetarian.  That means I no longer ate meat - no red meat, no chicken, no turkey, no fish.  It was pretty easy for me, but since my sons and husband were still carnivorous it made preparing meals a bit more challenging.  I made it for about a year, then I gave in and reverted back.  

About a month ago I finally got around to watching Forks Over Knives.  Well, that was that.  I immediately decided to go back to being vegetarian.  Then I did a little more research and come to understand the unhealthy properties of dairy including the addictive properties in cheese.  Within a couple of days, my son (a senior in high school), my youngest son and I all decided to go vegan.  Time to watch Vegucated :) 

Now, hubby hasn't gone vegan.  He doesn't mind eating vegan meals with us, but also wants meat a couple of times a week.  And, I will admit that at this point we are not vigilant with our veganism.  Though we are adamantly vegetarian, we still give in and allow a bit of eggs or milk or cheese into our diets.  But, for the most part my sons and I are vegan.  

What does this have to do with relationships?  Well, we need to support our partners even when their choices are very different from our own.  Just because I am convinced that animal protein is exceptionally bad for our health I am not going to condemn my husband (or my friends for that matter) because he chooses to still eat it.  And, he supports me and the boys even when that means the food choices in the house are A LOT different than he has been used to.  

Doesn't matter if your differences are about your diet or about your taste in music or whether you like the house hot or cold - you need to find ways to compromise and honor and respect each other. 

Looking forward to yummy bean burritos tonight (nope - no cheese),
Janelle Alex, Ph.D.

Photo credit: © Liddy Hansdottir - Fotolia.com  

Sunday, November 3, 2013

Romance Is At Hand

Many Americans have dreamed about visiting Venice and taking a ride in its most iconic mode of transportation, the gondola. But a lot of us are too busy to drop everything and go abroad; fortunately, there are gondoliers in many stateside cities who specialize in bringing a little Venetian romance and relaxation into your life. 

We were asked to share this article with you and we are pleased to do so, but we also wanted to share a couple of places that were not mentioned.  Here they are:

Old World Gondoliers in Indianapolis, IN - http://www.4gondola.com
Click here to discover a few of the places (from the original article) where you can take to the water the old-fashioned way.

Video Credit: @Zen Surfer - YouTube

Saturday, November 2, 2013

A Special Gift For Your Sweetheart

Gemstones - Unique Gifts for Lover

Gemstones can be the most unique gifts for your lover. Your gift for your lover does not have to be expensive but it has to be precious and treasurable! Your gift should be able to tell your loved one that you really love them and care for them.
If you want to surprise your special one with an exquisite gift on their birthday, anniversary or on valentine's day, and you are absolutely confused as to what would be the most unique gift for your lover, you can be assured that a dazzling precious or semi-precious gemstone gift will bring a smile on their face and a sparkle in their eyes. If your loved one is fond of decorating their home, why not gift them some exceptional gemstone show items or a gemstone wind chime. If you are looking specifically for a birthday gift for your loved one, birthstones or zodiac gems are a great option.
If you are thinking of buying your special woman a beautiful gift, gemstone lucky charms or trinkets could be a great choice, considering the wide range of selection available and affordability.
There are also special gemstones that attract love. Love stones like the rose quartz, moonstone and ruby gemstone have magnetic properties that magically draw your loved one towards you. Love gemstones are symbolic of unconditional love, forgiveness, trust and bring harmony in relationships. You may gift your sweetheart a beautiful rose quartz heart pendant or a rose quartz telephone accessory. A rose quartz helps nurture deep love and affection in one's relationships. The red ruby gemstone has a unique charm of its own and brings passion and romance in your love life.
A mystic red ruby is a symbol of true love. Gifting your loved one traditional red ruby jewelry will bind the two of you together in love and commitment for years to come. An elite ruby ring or a lovely bracelet is sure to charm your lady. If you're planning to propose to the woman you love, a lovely ruby ring will speak your heart for you.
If you've been thinking of what best gift you can gift your man for his birthday or you want to gift him something just like that, a gemstone globe or a gemstone keychain or a quartz paper weight would be a great idea.
In case, you are missing your ex and want to get back once again, choose a lovely jade gemstone or lapis lazuli to rekindle lost love.
If you think you are falling short of time to shop for an exclusive gift, simply log on to the internet and look up some good sites where you can buy gemstones online.