Saturday, June 18, 2011

Clean up a little before intimacy.

            I think an amazing thing you can do to enhance your intimacy is to spruce up a little before you get close to your beloved.  Take a shower, lotion your skin, show them that you want to be fresh, clean and looking your best for this wonderful person in your life.   Don't use your expensive cologne/perfume for going to work, use it for getting close to the one you love.  After cleaning up you will feel like getting closer to your partner and being a more exploring lover.  

Friday, June 17, 2011

Time - Quote

"We don't always get the amount of time we would like with our beloved.  Which makes the time we do spend with them so valuable."

-Rob Alex-

Thursday, June 16, 2011

Grow some herbs

We all love to put herbs and spices into our cooking or grilling.  However when you get them in processed way do you think they might lose a little of their amazing potential to enhance your food?  Why don't the two of you try to plant your own herbs?  It costs only pennies and if you take care of your plants they could last a long long time.   Plus you get the fresh benefits of the plant.  So why don't you and your wonderful partner grow some herbs together today and enjoy the benefits and flavor later.

Wednesday, June 15, 2011

Put Sensual Meditation and Awareness into your life.

What is Sensual Awareness?
Sensual awareness is attention to the senses and stimuli obtained from the senses. The terms sensual awareness and sensuality do not distinguish between negative stimuli (pain) or positive stimuli (pleasure). Sensual awareness and sensuality certainly have nothing to do with self-gratification, immorality, or overindulgence. Our senses provide the information by which we base all of our intuitive thoughts, creativity, and desires, as well as our clear problem solving ability. They help us to determine what is right and what is wrong for us far better than any holy book, psychologist, or pop culture. By becoming fully present in our sensual perceptions we become more sensitive to our passions, our inner compass, our personal truth, or what we call our core values. Core values are true and authentic and are not influenced by the values and judgments of others.
Being Disconnected
Imagine a scenario where you are in a job that is unfulfilling and has been for several years. However, on paper that job is prestigious and friends and family envy your position. You know that something has to change but you don't know whether you should go back to school, start your own business, or change careers altogether. The years keep on passing but you fell stuck in the situation and just continue to have no idea what to do. Or imagine that you are running ragged, between your work, your commute, carting children to and fro, PTA meetings, scarfing down fast food in the car 3 or more times per week, and never being able to start that new hobby or get some needed exercise, then lying awake squandering precious sleep time at night fretting about the next hectic day. You know something has to change because this is unhealthy, you are exhausted, and it is beginning to show, but you continue to make no changes because you are torn between where to cut your activities for some relief and being a superhero. Your mind is racing a mile a minute and you just cannot make a decision on how to make life better. These are two simplified examples of how life can be when we are disconnected from our core values.
How Sensual Awareness Reconnects us to our Core Values
In our hectic culture, many of us are not immediately capable of sitting and meditating with a clear mind for long periods of time. In this instance, sensuality just serves as a different form of meditation that may be more a more accessible means to reconnect with what is authentic inside of us, allowing us to observe our condition from a neutral, relaxed perspective. Often we are either too busy in our daily lives to fully recognize our core values or are too accustomed to letting outside influences, i.e. religion, commercial, societal values, opinions of family and friends, etc. guide our desires to easily make decisions that correctly align or actions with them.
Although sensuality does not actually refer to stimuli that are positive or negative, the more engaging and pleasurable the experience, the more easily we can stay in that place of presence and allow our core values and passions to surface clearly. The key to sensual meditation is actively observing through our senses enough to keep us present but yet not so much as to overwhelm or distract us, and that is relaxing enough to quiet mental chatter. We must become aware of our sensations but without thinking about them. We are giving all sensations, both the pleasurable and the unpleasant or stressful ones, a place to simply BE. Without fighting or ignoring or manipulation, we can just observe them and release them, where they will cease to cloud our thoughts and judgments. Essentially here we are giving attention to our body-mind connection. Sensuality is the bridge between the body and the mind, because all thoughts originate with the senses. Get them working together in harmony and see what miracles can happen!
Getting Started with Sensual Meditation
Although sensual awareness as a meditation may be a more easily accessible form of meditation than other forms, it still takes practice. Here is a very simplified practice to get started:
  • Find a quiet spot and sit comfortably. If necessary, make the environment more inviting with candles, incense, dimmed lighting, or fresh flowers.
  • No need to close your eyes but it helps to relax the eyelids halfway. Begin with slow deep breathing, expanding the ribcage and filling the entire abdomen with nourishing oxygen and releasing the used air and clutter with each exhalation.
  • Try not to think about anything, and as the thoughts arise, just release them and relax. Don't try too hard. Just go with the flow.
  • Notice what you hear.
  • Notice what you see.
  • Notice how you feel.
  • Notice what you smell.
  • Notice what you taste.
  • Be aware of your sensations and notice a sense of calm connectedness.
  • Continue to experiment with your sensual meditations in various locations and activities over a month's time.
There is much more to sensual awareness, so you would be cheated if you stop here. Regular practice is needed to experience the full intensity of benefits such as increased ability to think clearly and creatively in all aspects of your life; the discovery of solutions to problems you may have been struggling with; generating more laughter and fun in your life; experiencing increased self-confidence; and becoming more relaxed with yourself and less stressed. Learning about the concepts of balancing male and female energies within; understanding the chakras, and using and playing with universal energy are also necessary to benefit from a rich sensual engagement with the world.
Lisa Branscomb, J.D. is the founder of LifeBliss Solutions, Life Coaching from a Tantric Perspective. She is dedicated to teaching how to incorporate simple tantric practices and sensuality into everyday life. For more information see: LifeBliss Solutions

Tuesday, June 14, 2011

Beautiful Scenery.

          Sometimes the best thing to enjoy with your partner is some wonderful scenery.  You can find these wonderful places in every part of the world.  Even the smallest places can have a magical feel to them.  The beauty of these places is without a doubt an experience to behold.   Start around your town or city I am sure there are some places that you have not seen or experienced.  Enjoy this beauty with the one you love and create some simple memories that will last a lifetime.  

Monday, June 13, 2011

Join us on a wonderful ride and talk session.

          We have started a wonderful podcast called "Conversations Hit the Road" we have it on iTunes or you can get it directly from our site by clicking here Conversations Hit the Road.  On this podcast we do what we love and converse with one another.  Conversation seems to be one thing everyone says can help a relationship.  Come join us as we discuss anything we can think about and we are always open to suggestions for conversations.  Actually we would love to hear what you would like us to talk about.  Spread the word and the conversations by telling all your friends to join us also.  

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Sunday, June 12, 2011

Find wonderful places to enjoy together.

As summer approaches and we get ready for the vacation season, some of us might have a little more challenge with our finances then others.  You can find wonderful things to do with your partner that do not cost an arm and a leg to do.  Start by looking for places that might interest you that don't cost much or are free.  Wonderful areas of nature or spiritual places are great for this.  We recently took a trip to Serpent Mound in Ohio and were amazed at this wonderful mystery that was placed in the ground many years ago by native americans.  You can also save by camping it you enjoy that or use special offers that are in abundance right now as Hotels and Cities are wanting to get travels to their destinations, and know that the economy is tough right now.  I have seen packages for hotels, attractions, and even food coupons that would give you a wonderful time away for one low price.  To make your trip together one you can afford and have a good time, try to stay away from attractions that get you in and then constantly bombard you for more money.  Amusements parks are great for getting more money out of you once you get in.  Do your research and you will find many things you can do this summer for next to nothing.