Saturday, May 28, 2011

Can becoming Spiritual (not religious) help your relationship?

          One thing that has catapulted my own relationship to new heights it bringing spirituality into it.  I am not talking about religion but the deeper meanings of life.  When we introduced the deep topic of spirituality into our relationship we very quickly found ourselves getting closer.  We didn't agree on all things but our acceptance of each other believes and feelings grew tremendously.  During this time we filled bankruptcy and lost everything we had.  This is a time when most relationship might have thrown in the towel but through this we grew closer than we have ever been.  While we are still not totally back from the depths of our financial troubles we are feeling so strongly about what adding spirituality into our relationship has done for us that we started another site that helps others find peace in this manner.  That new site is called Inward Oasis and will be the basis of our new business that is helping couples find their place in this world.  You can find our new site at  Check it out and start building or healing your relationship and yourself today.

Friday, May 27, 2011

Be a Role Model for Each Other.

          You know we all look or looked up to someone at some point.  Be it a teacher, a family member, or a celebrity.  Now that we are in a loving and wonderful relationship it is time for us both to be role models for each other.  I am not talking about putting up posters of each other in your bedroom.  Maybe we should change this from role models to support models.  We should each show support and encouragement to our partners in whatever we do.  Say you are dieting help be the support model and stick with the diet not only for yourself but for your partner, same goes for exercise.  You both need to push each other a little.  Maybe you are starting a business or one of you is looking for a new job.  Make it a point to work together on these type of things and not just sit back and let the other partner struggle with putting all the effort into it.  You can be the support model in so many ways from pushing a little, to just being there when they need a shoulder to lean on.  This is what being in a relationship is all about cooperation.  

Thursday, May 26, 2011

Intimate Questions Great Games for Lovers.

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Communication is extremely important in a loving relationship. Talking and listening to each other is critical when you're first dating and when you're living with each other. Without it couples can literally drift apart emotionally and then physically.
If you're just starting or trying to get into a new relationship, sometimes it's tricky to bring up sensitive topics especially about sex. But this is exactly the time you need to be thinking and talking about all aspects of your sex life -- all your likes, dislikes, desires and expectations. Learning about each other's sexual preferences and perspectives will make your relationship much more fulfilling. It also enables you to get a better idea if the relationship is one you want to develop further or not.
And if you are in a long term relationship, maintaining good communication is even more important. You may think you know your partner fairly well but we all change as we grow. The assumption that you know and understand each other may be holding you back from creating an even stronger connection with the person you love. Our interests and desires evolve as we learn and experience more about the world and ourselves. Your partner may have shed restrictive beliefs or inhibitions. They may even be more open to erotic adventures and sexual pleasures initially refused -- activities you may even fantasize about still.
Sometimes it's hard to find things to talk about or ways to bring up certain subjects. Relationship games for couples can help set the mood, the expectations and the guidelines for discussing intimate questions we want answers to. Relationship games for couples help introduce intimate questions into your conversation. Randomly selecting topics from a broad list makes it easier to include more intense subjects with less sensitive ones. Here are a few quick and easy games that you can play anytime:
  • Ask your partner to start by picking a letter A-Z. You then select a word or phrase starting with that letter. Your partner then asks you any question related to that word which you answer. Then switch. Go through the alphabet start to finish if you wish (each player does the same letter once).
  • Each person writes down a list of questions on business cards or slips of paper. Place them in a bowl and pick them out randomly. You could set a time each day to ask each other one say before going to bed or after making love. Add to the bowl of questions whenever you think of a new idea.
  • Each of you secretly write down a numbered list (2-12) of 11 relationship or sex oriented words. On each player's turn, roll two dice twice and use the numbers to select words from each list. You then make up a question that uses the two words for your partner to answer. The combinations can be very weird -- if necessary make two questions one for each word.
  • Pick a relationship or sex guide book and ask your partner to pick a number between 1 and the number of pages in the book. Quickly scan the page and find a section of interest that you can ask a question about. Read the section to your partner and then ask the question.
These couples games are well suited for long distance relationships when you can only communicate by email, text message or phone call. They are excellent for online dating too. If you are stuck for conversation ideas or want to know more about a potential partner, try these relationship games and get a better understanding of the person you may decide to meet in the flesh.
It's curious that many people find it easier to have sex than to talk about it. The emotional intimacy you create when you take the time to share thoughts and feelings while listening to your partner in return is priceless. Enjoy playing couples games together and keep your intimate connection strong.
For more ideas related to this couples game, see Intimate Questions Game.

Wednesday, May 25, 2011

Creative Date Idea.

Rain can be a fun way to enjoy a date.
          Next time you get a warm summer rain, make a date to enjoy it.  You have several ways to enjoy this warm summer treat.  First you could just sit on a porch and listen to the rain and snuggle up on a porch swing.  A very romantic thing to do without a doubt, but I want to suggest something a little more wild.  I suggest that you get out and experience the rain first hand.  Grab your partners hand and venture out into the drizzle, venture out and feel the cool drops as they caress your skin.  Take turns jumping in puddles and kiss in the down pour from time to time.  Always be safe however and if there is lightning then stay out of the rain.  If no lighting is around then enjoy one of natures gifts as a date with your partner.  After this enjoyment you can then venture back to the house strip off your wet clothes and get snuggly under a blanket.  Who knows it might lead to something a little more.  

Tuesday, May 24, 2011

We all change so we need to understand this quote.

"If you think you can just fall in love and live happily ever after for the rest of your life, think again.  You have to fall in love with your partner over and over again to have a happy relationship. "
- Rob Alex - 

Monday, May 23, 2011

Sexy isn't just on the outside.

These ladies are screaming out at how sexy they feel.
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          I feel that we put to much pressure on the sexy aspect from the outside and in how we look or what we wear.  Don't get me wrong I really enjoy lingerie and sexy clothing.  However I think sexy comes from part of your attitude also.  Your actions can mannerisms can be just as sexy as anything that you can wear.  The way you carry yourself before you even get close to the bedroom can heighten the sexy quality in your relationship.  Touch can send shivers down your partners back, kisses can have a little more passion in them, not to mention where you kiss your partner can have a dramatic affect on them.  The biggest thing about being sexy on the inside is having confidence in your ability to be sexy.  Carve out your own style and find out what works best on your partner and soon they will be putty in your hands.  

Sunday, May 22, 2011

Let the energy flow between you, with touch.

          Touch is one of the most valuable tools in your quest to have the best relationship ever.  It has been shown how important touch is to children as they grow and mature.  Why wouldn't it be the same for a relationship?  Doesn't it feel great when your partner touches you?  Don't you feel more loved when a caress accompanies the words, "I Love You"  Touch is important for foreplay as well as support in hard times.  I feel you should make it a point today to start touching more.  Start in the mornings while the two of you are still in bed and just reach over and feel the warmth of your partner.   Touch them before they head out to work and when they return.  Reach over and touch them at dinner and caress them as you both fall asleep.  Make sure you make it a point to touch their skin and let their skin feel the sensation of your skin.  Make this effort and I promise you that your relationship will benefit from it.