Saturday, May 21, 2011

Snuggle Time.

Snuggling is great for your relationship.
          One of the great joys about being in a relationship is getting to be close to the person you love a lot of the time.  No time is better then the time you sleep.  This is a great time to connect in a different manner.  Learn or teach yourself to touch during sleep it adds a sense of comfort to both of your sleeping.  Some people like to snuggle up close and just feel the presence of each other by spooning.  Other variations include the lighter partner laying on top of the heavier one, or draping a leg across your partner.  Caresses and touching are great tools to help your partner fall asleep and they can become addictive.  If you haven't found a way to touch while sleeping try it out soon, even touching your feet together can add a sense of calmness to your bedroom. 

Friday, May 20, 2011

Conversations Hit the Road.

Well we are branching out again.  Now my wonderful partner and myself are doing podcasts and our is titled, "Conversations Hit the Road"  We basically just drive around and talk and make fun of things the way most normal couples would.  However our podcast is designed to spark conversation for other couples.  Pick up an episode of Conversations Hit the Road Like our Thai Food Episode below.  You can find us on itunes in the podcast section.

Thursday, May 19, 2011

Make your kissing interesting.

          Kissing is kissing, I have heard from so many people.  However I feel that it is an art form all in it's own.  There are so many ways to kiss and I want to challenge you to try out as many different ways of kissing as you can.  Change the angle of your head, lean in different, or even kiss a different part of your partners face then they wereexpecting.  Using your hands during kissing is a wonderful and exciting extra.  Touch your partners face as you kiss them or slip your hand into the small of their back to add a little zest to your kiss.   Pull into the kiss, run your fingers through your partners hair or down their back are all added excitement you can put into your kiss.  I would love to hear how others add more passion into their kisses so please comment below and for lack of better words, "Kiss and Tell"

Wednesday, May 18, 2011

Split Decision

photo from creative commons.
          Sometimes couples are just not going to agree.  This is okay it is what I call a split decision.  Where both partners have their feelings on the subject and neither is right or wrong.  You just agree that you disagree on the subject.  I feel this is one of the biggest relationship boosters as it allow you to be an individual and still share with your partner.  Some of the best conversation I have had with my partner are on this we don't see eye to eye on.  We don't argue about them we have a conversation and express each of your views and thoughts on the subject.  We don't try to say each other just try to get the other one to understand our position and our feelings.  Try it sometime and see how great it feels to have a real deep discussion with your partner, it truly is a blessing.  

Tuesday, May 17, 2011

Spiritual Sex and some information.

          Spiritual sexuality is connecting to someone on a level beyond the physical. Throughout our lives we are conditioned to understand sex only as physical. It is the physical part that translates into pleasure. We see this in movies and written literature. We are conditioned to believe that sex is either for pleasure or for creating life.
What if I were to tell you there was another kind of level of sexual connection? What if I told you that when you connect at a spiritual level, you transcend into a new a level of being? This is a level of contentment within yourself and with the world around you. What if I told you that if you could learn to find contentment at this level, you would attract an abundance of positive energy and love?
If anything, this may sound very interesting to you on many levels. Does it not? So how do you get to this level? It takes some time and giving of yourself. When you think about sex, there is really not much to it. I mean there is the physical act and then nothing more. But when you look at sex from a spiritual level it takes on a whole different meaning.
Sex at a spiritual level starts with the touch. There is so much that can go into a touch. From a spiritual standpoint your touch must not only be gentle and loving, but it also should be the point of an energy exchange. Through this point you are releasing and receiving from your partner. She or he must also be sending and receiving this positive energy flow. The act of sex turns into a connection of positive energy flows.
These energy flows heighten the experience. It is not all about the sexual urge to reach an orgasm but an urge to feel your partner in a way that can only translate into a mutual energy exchange. As you and your partner proceed your energy levels increase. You bodies become one.
The positive energy that is exchanged can release an emotional flow that is hard to control. Yet it is best to just go with the feeling and not control what is happening. As you send and receive energy, your emotions will rise and fall as if you are traveling on a roller coaster.
This feeling is normal at first. As you practice more you will be able to understand these feelings. The bad emotions that come forth will gradually heal and those good emotions will be heightened.
If you have come from a very bad relationship and have fears of intimacy, this is a wonderful way to heal your inner self and move on in life. Yet I caution you to find a person that you can connect with in a positive spiritual way. As there are good energies and positive energies in life, there are also bad ones.
Receiving bad energy from someone can not only suck the life from you physically but also destroy you spiritually. Practice opening yourself up to the world. Your inner feelings will always warn you of bad energy entering your life. Push that bad energy away. Give it back to the Universe. Allow yourself to accept only good energy into your life. When you master this, good people will be drawn to you.
Just like with anything in life this kind of spirituality take practice. Finding a good mate or partner takes time. Give yourself the time to enjoy life, give out positive energy so that you can receive the same.
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Monday, May 16, 2011

Hurdles don't have to slow you down.

On your mark, get set.....
We all want to be happy in our relationship but we often get stuck in what seems to be beyond our control. You want to be happy but something keeps sabotaging your relationship. Here are what I believe are some hurdles to a happy relationship..

1. Fear. These are your personal worries and concerns about members of the opposite sex and about people in general, which you have picked up over the course of your life. Very few of us escape being hurt or disappointed by people (and members of the opposite sex) during the course of our lives. As a result of our experiences we develop specific boundaries and defensive mechanisms to protect ourselves against any new hurt but these measures often act as a hurdle against a happy relationship. If, for example, you believe that if you open your heart completely to your partner they will misuse you and walk all over you then you will be unable give your all to your relationship. The only way to overcome this hurdle is to be honest with yourself that you suffer from this and to work together with your partner so that as you gain confidence in their love, you are able to slowly lower your defensive mechanisms. If you are both unable to work this out you should not be afraid to get professional help.

2. Relationship stereotyping. This entails what you and your partner believe about what makes up a good relationship and whose opinion counts in this. This includes your individual beliefs of what each partner should or should not do in a relationship and a lot of this is based on what you saw in the home that you grew up in, as well as in the society that you grew up in. If you are a man and your father did not do any housework then you may come into your relationship expecting the woman to do all the housework but if she came from a home where her father helped with the housework then this becomes a hurdle to a happy relationship. To overcome this hurdle you need to discuss all the different things that make up daily living with your partner so that you negotiate a new relationship reality that works for both of you. For those issues that you didn't discuss, you need to ask yourself, how can I love my partner in this issue? Remember that loving your partner is an integral part of a happy relationship.

Another aspect of this stereotyping is to understand whose approval you seek in the relationship as some partners seek the approval of one of their parents or friends etc which becomes a hurdle to a happy relationship. As you do the different things in your relationship ask yourself, whose approval am I seeking as I do this thing? Remember your aim in your relationship is to love your partner and make them happy.

3. Busyness of life. Our lives are full of activity and this can be a hurdle to a happy relationship if one of you prioritizes their busyness over their partner. This happens when one partner finds their total identity in their busy activity. Of course there is nothing wrong with being involved in life but you will usually know when your involvement is unhealthy. Ask yourself, what am I hiding from in my busyness? Be candid with yourself so that you can adequately address it.

4. Sense of personal inadequacy. We often feel that we are inadequate in many ways and if you get caught up in this you will be unhappy and so will your relationship. You need to both identify your unique strengths in the relationship and let each person work in their area of strength.

If you can work on diminishing these 4 relationship hurdles then your relationship will get progressively happy.

Rosy Anderson is a researcher in social economic issues with a great interest in relationships. If however you want to know your partner's perspective on all the importance components of a marriage there are 1000 questions that I recommend that you ask but if you just want to gauge your compatibility I recommend these 4 simple compatibility tests.

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Sunday, May 15, 2011

Market Yourself.

Is your stock still going up?
          When we were dating we constantly marketed ourselves to our would be partner.  We always wanted to look good, we would bring flowers, or we tried to impress this new person in our life.   The presentation was the key it was like a big productions getting ready for dates, planning them out, and executing them in a flawless manner.  Why do we stop doing that now that we are in a long term relationship?  I suggest going back to that feeling of butterflies in your stomach as you awaited your date.  Plan out wonderful evenings to impress you partner.  Wear your good clothes when you go out to dinner, dig out the sexy sleep wear to entice your lover, and go out of your way to make your partner feel special and the object of your love.  Start your marketing campaign today and just like big business does with products use it to get the most of of your relationship.