Why in the hell are you holding back your love.

We are all on guard with our hearts we want to protect them from getting broken. Thusly so many people hold back the love they could be showering their partner with. There feeling is that if they hold their love back they won't get hurt if the relationship goes sour. This is a sure way to start that trend of your relationship turning sour. Your partner will start to sense you are not putting your full effort into the relationship. This will make them start to feel as if you don't care as much as you do. Jealously will start to rise up as well as all other sorts of problems simply because you are not putting your full effort into the relationship. You will then start blaming your partner for doubting you love and yet tis you that give this reason of doubt. Try a little experiment and get fully of your love and see what happens. Touch your partner whenever you get a chance, call them just to say I love you, hold their hand as you are walking places and make mad passionate love to them as often as you can. Look in their eyes as you tell them you love them, let them see you true love. Then see how those problems start to melt away and you get more special feelings in return. Guarding your heart is fine if you don't want to love anyone!

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Massage is an answer.

You know most couples don't understand how much a massage can help a relationship. I am not talking about one you pay $100 dollars for. I am talking about rubbing your partners shoulders or their back. Even a foot massage can be wonderful. Although the massage feels wonderful the important part is what it can offer. It allows you the time to talk to each other. Starting conversations while you are massaging can open the door to deep and meaningful conversations. You can also use it as a meditation to clear both your minds because you can get relaxation from giving or receiving. However the most important part is enjoying the touch of a massage. Make sure to engage the skin of each other. Let your love flow into each other as you kneed the skin of your partner. Most people don't understand that touch is very important to our well being and without it we are missing something in our life. Now as good as it feels when you are getting the massage make sure to reciprocate the feeling to your partner, it is only fair.

Fights sometimes they are good?????? WTF

Yes we all have disagreements and even loud yelling fights from time to time. If you think other couples don't have them they you are very much mistaken. The thing that divides the couples on this is how they view them. Couples that are close understand that a disagreement or an fight doesn't mean that they don't love each other. They don't question the love. They take the argument in stride and understand that it is part of the relationship. After they air their concerns they don't dwell on the fight they let it go and get back to being a couple. This is where the make up is ohhhhhh so good. Understand that if you think you relationship is going to be a fairy tale then you need to think again.

Healing Sex

If you have nagging problems that keep you just off you best, then sex might just be the answer. Many studies have shown that coupes that have what would be considered a wonderful sex life, tend to have less health problems then those that don't. Science tells us that it is because of the chemicals that are released during sex, they give us that boost to stay healthier and have less stress. However I feel that those are very valid points and I understand the effects of dopamine and oxytocin. My thoughts are that when we are in a special relationship with that partner we share more then just pleasure during intimacy. We share each others energy we share our qualities and we form a super connection. It think that this is why people who are sexually happy are not as sick as others. They have two peoples energy fighting off the things that annoy us. When you have passionate intimacy you carry part of our lover with you for a few days. Instead of losing part of yourself you both enjoy the benefits of carrying both your energies around. This is like a force field and protects you. That is why I feel couples that make love on a regular basis are guarded from the effects of these annoying things. Try it out and see what you think. If you make the commitment I feel you will soon start reaping the rewards plus it just feels good to.

Wirte down interesting things to talk about.

Here is a practice I am getting into. I take a notebook along with me, one small enough to fit in my back pocket. When I have a thought or see something interesting that happens to or around me during the day I jot it down. Then latter in the evening with I am home and with my partner I share these things with her. Not saying my memory isn't that great but sometimes you loose the feeling of the moment when you try to remember what happened. With your notes it will jog your mind back to the place and time that it happened or the thought popped into your head. Plus it make for great conversation. Give it a try and see what happens you might find yourself writing more and more things down as you get comfortable with it. In my opinion it will add fuel to the fire of your relationship.

Choose you bed sheets wisely.

As a couple you are going to spend a lot of time together in your bed. Most of it will be sleeping unfortunately. So it is important that you pick sheets that fit both of your style. You want a balance in your sheets nothing to flowery or nothing to masculine. I suggest solid colored sheets in several different colors to match you moods. Next decide what type of fabric you would like. Is it flannel, silk, cotton. You can have several different kinds to match the seasons. The right sheets on your bed can make your sleeping a joy and the wrong kind can make for sleepless nights. Now all you have to hope is that you preferences match up.