Have you took inventory lately of how much your partner does for you? Do they go the extra mile for you? Does he/she do things that allow you to be the person you want to be? Does he/she give you massages, does he/she do the dishes for the family, or does he/she take care of the kids so that you can go play golf? These are just a few examples of what you could put on your inventory list. Take a moment and list ten things you partner does that you feel helps you out? Now can you think of ten things that you do for them? Does your list come up a little short? If so then YOU need to take some action to balance it up. Relationships are always give and take but if you are taking more then you are giving the balance is off and the relationship will tilt. We need this balance to have a happy and healthy relationship. Do this everyday and you will soon start seeing that you make sure to balance the give and take. It is only fair to your partner and you. It always feels good when your partner does something special for you but there is a great pride that you will feel when you do something special for them. Take this is heart and balance out your relationship today.
Saturday, September 25, 2010
Do you have those days where you just collapse into bed? You have spent all day taking and running the kids around, working, doing laundry, etc, etc, etc. Yet the one thing you have forgotten is one of the most important things in your life. That is your relationship! You have spent all you energy doing the other things in life and now you have no time or energy for your relationship. This is when you have to dig deep and find the energy to give to your partner. They deserve it and you know it but it is hard when you are ready to just relax. I suggest that you start thinking about saving some energy through out the day to save for your partner. Think of yourself as having a battery and just sit down and store away some charge for your partner later. Your relationship will benefit greatly if you have time to converse under the stars or talk while laying in bed, or even have a little physical encounter that lets you both sleep with a smile on your face. Don't wait until it is convenient for put time into your relationship you need to do it every single day. Take 15 minutes or so and just sit and store some of your energy up and tell yourself, "That is for my relationship later"
Friday, September 24, 2010
I hear so many people bashing love and it breaks my heart. I wonder what could have happened to make someone feel this way about the most special feeling in the universe? Was it a hurtful experience? or maybe just not having any in their life? The answers will never be answered. I have to turn the other check however and not go off on these people for what ever means think they can put down the feeling everyone is searching for. The J.Giels band use to sing a song called love stinks but does it really or is it just when we lose it that it stinks? Points to ponder. Enjoy the love you have today it is not promised nor does it just happen it takes work and nurturing to make it worth wild.
Thursday, September 23, 2010
Sometimes if you have difficulty telling your partner what you want you might just have to write it down. Not an instruction list but a fantasy or a desire to try something different. Try this little exercise the next time the two of you have some free time. One of you start writing an erotica story and then after a page stop. That night read what you have written to your partner and then hand the paper over to them. The next day it is their turn to start writing and and to read their little bit of erotica to you that night. Keep this going until you finish a story and then start over again with the opposite partner starting the story. Be very descriptive about the images in your head and see if you can get your partner hot and ready for action. This might just become a ritual in your bedroom each night. It also allows you to express fantasies to your partner and gives them some insight to what you find erotic. Heck you might find that they two of you have the same interest but were both afraid to express it. Dig out your best writing pen or type of your part and send it to your love if you are to embarrassed to read it aloud. Soon you might just be getting exactly what you want.
Wednesday, September 22, 2010
Here is a fun little thing to do for a couple that is a little sexy and can lead to some great fun. Have a night when you ditch the underwear. Put on loose fitting shorts and shirts that allow for your partner's hands to wander a bit and find interesting places to rub. Get under the covers and let your hands invade your partners clothes to find only them inside. This is a great secret to have for the two of you. You can sit a watch a movie and start your sexual foreplay a little early. This isn't a every night thing but it is great fun once in a while.
Tuesday, September 21, 2010
It is a fact of life that at some points and time some depression will hit your life. This is when it is great to be in a loving and caring relationship. Nothing knocks depression for a loop like someone telling you how much they love you and how great you are. That person is and should be your partner. They are the support that is always there they are the rock that doesn't waiver. Sometimes you are that partner and sometimes you need that partner. Love is a wonderful tool in so many ways yet people don't know how to use it to the best of it's ability in most cases. Love is not physical, it is not emotional, and it is not spiritual, it is all these things rolled together. When you understand this you will see that love is the greatest gift we can give or receive. Think of that the next time you partner has a bad day and instead of hiding in another area of the house offer up some physical, emotional and spiritual words to break that frown into a smile.
Monday, September 20, 2010
Does you partner have a commute to work? Maybe they have a long drive coming up. If this is the case then make them a little travel bag for them to have for their commute or trip. For example back this bag with their favorite healthy snacks, their favorite music and change for drinks on the trip. This little gesture will score hug point for you when your partner returns home. You can put anything in the bag they can use on their drive as long as it isn't dangerous for them. So don't back a magazine because they can't read that on the drive. Maybe a audio book or a picture you can stick by the speedometer. A special note taped to the steering wheel for them to read as they leave is another great way to show them you care. Find your own style and make your partners drive a little less stressful.
Sunday, September 19, 2010
A wonderful thing happened today. My wonderful partner and I were lying in bed when our three year old son came in to join us. As usual he crawled between us and snuggled down. My partner reached across him to touch me. Our son started to fidget and pushed at the arm laying across him. My partner exclaimed, "I am trying to love on Daddy, too" To this our wonderful son said "You can't love like that you have to use both hands" He turned over and wrapped his arms around me and kissed me. It was one of those tender moments that you will remember forever. Then something just as wonderful happened. My partner got up and went around the bed and got in on the other side and wrapped her arms around me and asked our son, "Like this" It was one of the most touching days of my life. Snuggled between the woman I love and the wonderful son we have made my heart sing.
This might not see that important to a lot of people. To me however it shows that we are teaching our son the right way to love. He told us that we have to put all we can into our love and that was an amazing thing to come out of a three year old's mouth. It make me smile because I know where he is learning such things from and it is the love that my partner and I share.