Saturday, May 1, 2010
You know we think that when we give our love to our partner it stops there. We give our partner a kiss and tell them we love them. We don't think about how that simple act of love can grow and magnify. For starters it puts our partner in a good mood, so that automatically start feelings better and special. They in turn will be happy and spread that love around as they go about their day. The people that benefit from that spreading of love are people like your children, coworkers, and everyone they interact with. They will be friendly at the bank at work, even towards people they meet on the street. Eventually that love might even come back to your during the day. Be it someone you partner passed during the day or you children when you get home that love will return to you creating a never ending cycle. I didn't even mention how much love you will get in return from you partner. Start you cycle right now and walk over and kiss your partner for no reason, tell them you love them and walk away. No you have set the never ending love in motion, enjoy it when it comes back.
Friday, April 30, 2010
Daily events such as work, shores, school, children take a drastic effect on the relationship of couples. These events can suck your energy out of you without you even knowing. Soon you find yourself at home where you can finally relax and you just want to plop down and do nothing. Then you realize that you haven't even seen your partner yet, how are you going to find any energy to share with them. Well if that is how you feel then I am here to tell you that you are looking at it all wrong. Think about it how do you feel when you have a really good day with your partner? I am sure that you feel wonderful, if you are like me you feel on top of the world. Maybe just maybe you relationship can be a recharging thing in your life. It isn't that secret that being in love has great effect on your mental well being, and sex is wonderful for your health and mind. Hummmm lets think now maybe all these trials of the day could be combated by being in love????? If you start viewing your relationship as a way to reconnect to love, and knowing that love is a supercharger for life, then why would you put off your relationship with the person you love. I think if you put the personal commitment into this thinking you will find that you will have more energy for the next day. Sure this will not take away any of those daily tasks but you will sure be a little happier doing them knowing that your lover is at home waiting to recharge your batteries.
Thursday, April 29, 2010
If your like the normal couple you only talk about your partners faults instead of focusing on the good things that they do in your relationship. We dwell on the facts of what they didn't do instead of celebrating the things that they do to help out the household or your relationship. What you need to do is to take time and make a list of all the good things your partner does in your relationship. Write down all the little things like taking out the garbage, picking up the kids, or even fixing dinner. Then look for major things they do to make your relationship better, like making sure the two of you have a date night, or planning a great weekend getaway for the two of you. I am sure once you start writing down things you will be amazed at how many good things your partner does. Do they make the bed, mow the lawn, let you watch the shows you want, or even just kiss you good night. Then the next time you want to yell at them for leaving the lid off the toothpaste, pull out your list and read one of the good things they do. Maybe you can live without the lid on the toothpaste.
Wednesday, April 28, 2010
One of the most intimate things you can do together is take a shower with each other. Sure it is not the easiest way to take a shower, but we are not talking about your morning shower before work. We are talking about a long hot shower with lots of soap sharing and taking turns washing each other. The beauty of the taking a shower together is it lets you see each other naked, when you are in bed together you miss that imagery. Be sexy and enjoy the warm water the warm bodies and the touch. OH those soapy touches where you hands glide over each other, ummmh that is pure delight. The images of soap running down a curvy body sends shivers down my spine. You might also think about shower sex but that is a bit challenging depending on the heights of each other, but it is worth a try just make sure to be safe. Slips and falls in the shower can drastically change your mood. Let each other wash the others erogenous zones and sit back and enjoy the feeling. As a kicker let the other person wash your hair it is a relaxing experience that will loosen you up right from the start. Last thing make sure you have the biggest fluffiest towels that you have in the house to rap up in after the shower because with all that heat in your shower it will be very cold once you get out.
Tuesday, April 27, 2010
There are many forms of breathing exercises, yet most of them involve only one person. Tantric practices encourage couples to find ways to become one and breathing together is one of those. It is believed that for a couple to get on the same plane that their breathing should be able to match each other. Lay in bed and try to breath at the say time, Place your hand on your partners chest and let them place their hand our yours. Then let you chest rise and fall and try to get in sync with each other so that you are in harmony. I enjoy doing this in a different manner, I like to start in a soul gazing position. We both stand facing each other and look deep into each others eyes, trying to see inside their soul. Then I like to begin the breathing and trying to get our breath in sync. In this I feel we are breathing the same air, thus bringing in the same outside forces into our bodies. This is a great way to end your night, before bed time and as a last good night sentiment between the two of you. You can also do it in the morning when you get up, just make sure both of you are okay with morning breath or can quickly brush before hand.
Monday, April 26, 2010
One thing that I feel is way to avoided in our society is letting our children see what being in love is about. I am not saying you should sit there and make out in front of them. Let them see the two of you holding hands, and let them know that a quick kiss it okay, and one thing you have to do is let them know that Mommies and Daddies need time alone. With these things you are sitting up the ground work for you children to have great relationships in the future. Our children learn from our examples, so if they see their parents in a relationship that is full of spite and anger that is what they will feel is a normal relationship. It is time to break the mold and let your children understand that you love each other. Tell them how much you love their other parent or your partner, don' think that they cannot handle it. Talk about your lover to them when they are gone, tell them you wished they were home or that you miss them. Children understand a lot more then you realize. If you want your children to have great relationships in the future lead by example and let them see what love is about.
Sunday, April 25, 2010
Sometimes it is hard to just bring up something that has had deep meaning in your life. It might be something from you childhood or maybe even something that your partner has done the hurt your feelings. You want to express your total feelings without being interrupted before you get your whole point across. This is where the magic thing we call email is a benefit. Find some time when you are alone and construct your message to your partner, opening up your feelings and letting your emotions come out in the email. Send it to them and say nothing, never ask if they got the email, just wait for a reply either in person or by return email. Sure, face to face talking is always the best but sometimes if you might be embarrassed or scared to tell them how you feel. Most likely your partner will understand your feelings and then you have now opened up the lines of communication and found another way to communicate with the person you love.