Saturday, January 2, 2010


I had a reader respond that they were a little miffed with their husband and the gifts they he purchases for her for their anniversary, birthday, and Christmas. Her concern was that she got things that were useful instead of things that were sentimental. I hate to generalize because everyone is different but most men like getting things that they will use such as sports equipment, tools, or electronic devices. This flows over into their own gift giving ideas, while you think a sweeper would be a horrible gift, in the typical man's mind a new sweeper would be great as it would help get things done better and faster. Men don't on the surface think about how sentimental gifts can be. Plus they don't listen very well when you are dropping hints. If you say "Oh I like that" as you pass something in the mall, he thinks you just kinda like the item and doesn't store it into his memory bank. Women if you want your man to really know what you like you need to be very straight forward. Lead them over to the item and make them look at it with you for a while, then say "That would make a lovely gift, I would love to have it someday" Now you man will store that as a direct gift to give you. Ladies watch how your man looks at things he wants to have, it is very clear when he wants something, you have to be that straight forward with him. Once you get him thinking about getting you presents that don't have a purpose then you might begin to see him branch out and start doing a better job of pick out presents on his own. One last note, when you do get something that you truly want, make a big deal about it, cry, jump up and down, hug and kiss him with passion because those are images he wants you to do when he gives you a gift. This will make sure the next time he goes out to get you a present, he will be looking for one that gets the same reaction. If a vacuum is what you really want however try to contain yourself when you open it because if you go crazy, you might just get a new model of vacuum every year.

Friday, January 1, 2010

New Years Resolutions

It is that time of year where we all start making our New Years resolutions. Most of us will be hoping to lose weight, get a new job, be better parents, etc. However this year you should also make a resolution to improve your relationship, no matter what shape it is in. There is always room for improvement. Maybe you can try something different in your sex life, or make more time for dates. Whatever you focus should be on during the upcoming year it should focus on making the two of you a better couple. Your resolution might be to take that trip the two of you have been wanting to take forever. If that is the case don't waste time start a savings plan for it today on New Years Day. Get outside the box and pick things that might not be your usual focus like making a resolution to take a cooking class together this year or maybe even a class on tantric sex. There are lots of things out there the two of you can look into but make a plan today New Years Day only happens once a year so make the most of it for the two of you.

Thursday, December 31, 2009

Get out of bed on the RIGHT side!

I am sure you have all heard the expression, "I got up on the wrong side of the bed," but how can you make it work for your relationship. Well, my suggestion is to engage you partner right from the start of the morning by crawling over him/her to get out of bed. If you sleep naked, this is a wonderful good morning move that will surely get your partner to notice you as you are getting up. Make sure to rub your skin across his/hers as you slink across. Who knows you might even get pulled back into bed for a little more ways to wake yourselves up.

Wednesday, December 30, 2009

Share some Fantasies

A fun and exciting way to express your fantasies is through short stories. Even if you are not the best writer in the world you can still express your desires in this manner. Take a day and both of your write out a fantasy story making sure to take your time to express details. Use your imagination but make it something you would like to try or explore. Then once your have written your erotic fantasy exchange them for each other to read. Not only will this get you horny by reading a sexy story but it will also give you a glimpse into your partners fantasies. You don't know you might find something that you both are curious about but afraid to mention. If you are too embarrassed to write your own story, pick up a book of erotic and take turns reading it to each other. If you click the title of this post you will go to the amazon site that holds my first short erotica story. There are many erotic writers out their and each has a different style and message. I enjoy erotica of things that might happen in a normal relationship, things I can actually imagine happening between my partner and me. I think I enjoy this type of erotica because you can use it as a guide to building your own fantasies. However there are several great writers out there that can send you to the farthest reaches of your imagination. Check out Susie Bright's books if you want to venture out from your normal everyday style of life. Never under estimate the power of erotica for turning people on.

Tuesday, December 29, 2009

Learn to Juggle

If there is one thing you need to learn to do being in a relationship it is to juggle? Not balls or chainsaws but your schedule. Once you commit to a relationship the giving and taking begin. You now have to find time to fit things in your schedule that you might not have had to before you feel in love. The big one is spending time with your partner, this consumes a good portion of your waking and non working hours. This is when you have to start juggling the thing you would have normally done before you were in this relationship. Things like going out with friends, playing golf, going shopping just to name a few. These things might have to be combined with time spend with your partner to get them all in. One of the things I find challenging in a relationship is your time spent watching television. I don't watch a lot but there are a few things I love to view, the problem lies in juggling this. For instance on Monday night I like to watch the monday night football game while my partners favorite show is on at the same time, sounds like a problem, huh? Well here is where we both juggle, my football game usually last longer than her show so we watch hers but on commercials we flip to the game to watch a few minutes here and there and check the score. Once her show is over she sits and watches the rest of the football game with me. The problem isn't solved but it has be juggled to make the best of the situation. Now maybe you understand why I think being able to juggle is important in a relationship.

Monday, December 28, 2009

Underwear don't Forget about it.

One trap you don't want to fall into when you are in a relationship is forgetting to be sexy. One of the easiest ways to forget this is by not caring about the underwear you put on. Tighty whities and Grandma Panties should never be worn when you have someone in your life that you enjoy being intimate with. I have never understood why once people are in a relationship that they let themselves slip into not being sexy for their partner. When you were dating did you wear underwear with stains on them? One of the first thing that people do when they start a new relationship is purchase new under clothes. Part of this is anticipating the first time you get to be together physically, but why should that stop once we get to know each other better? If you want to make your relationship last then you need to pay attention to areas that you might slip up in, like wearing nasty underpants. In my opinion their is no excuse for this action, yes you can wear these items to work or while you out with your friends but don't let the person you want to impress the most see this image.

Sunday, December 27, 2009

Make love through the new year.

Most people make sure they are near their partner at midnight on New Years Eve to give them a great big kiss. Why not take it a step or two farther and make love until the New Year arrives. Yes, you heard me right ring in the new year with sex. Get the two of you a hotel room or even at your own home. Spend the evening dinning and maybe have a few drinks, if you don't have to drive anywhere, and then just enjoy each others company until it gets closer to the midnight hour. At this point you have to be the judge as to how long your sex will last you don't want to finish before midnight. Heck you can even purchase some New Years Eve party hats and confetti to throw and midnight. How many people can say the made love from one year to the next. Sounds fun doesn't it. Many people are avoiding the crowded places this year for New Years Eve so why not have you own little party for two this New Years Eve.